I told my husband reddit. My husband is absolutely livid.

I told my husband reddit Well now, he curled down to hug me and whisper “congratulations” in my ear and that’s when I felt his lips on my neck. New comments cannot be posted and votes cannot be cast. if you don't want to accept that then you aren't welcome here, scroll on. He agreed at the time. I suspect that the guy were better because they were bigger in length and girth. There has been continued lies, hiding only fans/porn behind my back and the most recent him contacting escorts. Or check it out in the app stores   I told my husband If he doesn’t have my back this time, I’m leaving. I finish, pack everything up, and save it for lunch the next day. My mother kept talking but i couldnt really hear her, my head was spinning as i started to read. She started blowing up the hospital phone looking for Dr. With second d-day, I told my husband that I simply could not go through it alone this time and he was supportive of me reaching out to family and said he would accept the outcome. My husband ALSO does this, but it's from his ADD hyperfocus. I wanted to tell him I would handle it and get any help I need. I can't relax wondering when the next outburst is going to happen. If I were in your shoes I would wait a little bit. You will see my ex did the same thing to me. But a bit later that day he screamed some words that I cant seem to get over. I really love and appreciate my partner but at the same time when it happened I I know I did something awful and disgusting, and when I couldn't take the guilt anymore I cut off my affair partner and confessed everything to my husband. My ex-husband didn’t know I left until he returned home to a semi-empty apartment. I felt fine. She said “Shhhh. 3 months after what happened I met my now husband, we’ve been together for 5 years and recently I told him about the rape. 5. My husband and I have a wonderful relationship, he is the most caring person I have ever met. Get the Reddit app Scan this QR code to download the app now. Nothing makes it real until you go. I got several comments and messages saying I really need to let my husband know about this stuff, and I totally agree. Your husband responded that he’s young and healthy, which explains the erections, and an extra bonus for you body shaming your husband. My mother told my younger brother to go fuck himself and he never knew it. My worst mistake was taking him back the first time. I told my brother that I wouldn't attend his wedding Originally posted to r/confessions TRIGGER WARNING: Homophobia, family upheaval Original Post Aug 7, 2023. For context_ I'm a sahm with 2 kids (3yrs old & 6months old) My husband is an ambulance driver, he works odd hours and comes home unexpectedly, he expects dinner or lunch ready whenever he gets home, whether I'm sleeping or busy with the kids. He literally just brushed it off like it wasn’t serious. That's the most glaring part of this post that OP glosses right over. I'm 7 months pregnant now but when I was 5 months I found out he was cheating while I was I the hospital with pneumonia. 5 inches and he says he’s average in girth. My in-laws are still my family, and my grandmother in law calls every week to talk to me. I told my husband flat out that if he ever expects me to wait on him hand and foot like his dad does to his mom, there’s the door! My BIL is recently married and having the same issues with his wife. This made me feel worse and I kept having a hunch that he You are not a creepy predator, but while I hate to tell you this, you will have to perform some sort of reconnaissance along these lines to keep your conscience clear. He told me that he got the guys number and that the guy wanted him to text him if I never told my friends or family because I was embarrassed and scared of what they would say or think. I had already begun to out 11 votes, 40 comments. But I don't want it to come to that I know blended families are becoming more common. I turn to my husband to tell him that I need him to take over. My husband was taken into the Director office because she was causing so much trouble. He doesn’t have a clue”😝 I never told anyone, not even my husband I am with today. this subreddit is for a podcast called reddit on wiki, that reads reddit stories. My husband is lazy all the time and to be honest I don't mind it. He told me that he will do anything he can to be deserving of a second chance. He was so upset about it all and now so interested in making changes. Eventually he storms out. I told him to just tell me what the problem was, and we would sort through it What I wish I could tell my husband. I told my husband "I can feel myself shutting down emotionally, and if I shut down completely, there won't be any bringing it back. You should have told your husband (if that's the kinda relationship you have, everyone is different), and you also She told me I needed to do my duty as a wife and cook for my family. I made a mistake and I paid for it during my pregnancy. I told my husband both times at 3 weeks when I found out. I have level 1 autism spectrum disorder. It might be time for that kind of "Another year forward and my husband admits to me that he doesn't masturbate, doesn't even think about sex (not even with other women!), and feels like he is superior to other people for not wanting sex. My husband was on a business trip that week, but my coworkers wife was home and he had to come clean to her. My husband (39M) and I (34F) have been together for over 13 years (married for almost 9). Soon after meeting new husband I spoke to my old friend over the phone. I think you are above Reddit's pay grade here. I feel like I regained my husband, that the person I married is here again. It’s been a few days and the excuse I heard from them was that the niece was sick, but her I’ve been living in my new apartment for 2 days. Last week in my husband's office friend birthday party I got to know husband that my husband is very close to a female co-worker(24F) She has joined the company for about 9 months these are some things I found out I don't know if your husband will react like my uncle did, as I told you in another post that the circumstances were different. It turns out, that he wanted to meet me. 7K comments. People cross-post stories for a chance that our podcast hosts (Sean, John and Josh) will read the story on the show. He has no right to tell you know and he's lucky you don't drain the bank accounts, divorce him and leave his ass in a cardboard box. Posted by u/Mamamarieof3 - 344 votes and 117 comments TL;DR – my childhood best friend told me she was having an affair with my husband and that his baby is hers. Both tom and Tammy have asked multiple questions about me in the past to the kids and they tried to convince them I was a bad person during the My toddler tells me she’s ready for bed. Over the last 4 years or so, she's been constantly messaging my husband. Original Post. Apparently the priest followed up to see if I’d told my husband, and when my husband said he didn’t understand what the priest was talking about, he told my husband about the affair. Nothing changed and it was still our originally diagnose. She still hasn’t shown me the proof I asked her for and I’m starting to doubt her claims. no losing family member, no recent traumas or accidents he just says he feels too overwhelmed with work (he works a demanding job but I won't mention it because I don't want him to be judged for it) he wanted to let off some steam and Hi everyone, there’s multiple people involved here so I will give everyone fake names. My husband and I have not been in a good place at all since dday (2 years). Tell him that you love him and want a healthy marriage, not one with this kind of conflict. It took us separating for 3 months, then 2 months more for me to realize I was the problem. However, I think the worst part was when my husband asked him why he pursued me. Don’t know how much this will help. My hormones were everywhere and she had to help me calm down because we were in so much debt I felt so thankful. It was a week after I left with my kids and our dog when it all happened. I said "From that statement I now know how hard you weren't listening to me. My husband and his parents served themselves and joined us. Ooooooffff. I got too close to another man without any intention of actually doing what I did. He told me that he thinks he is ready to rekindle our relationship and asked me for a second chance. They came back about 10 minutes later and my husband told me that they made-out in the restroom stall. My husband grabbed my arm and told me “you deserve nothing stop having the fucking if there's part of your past that got something to do with his dealbreaker, maybe you should told him. She told him all her concerns and he acknowledged them, recognized she may leave, but expressed no intention to change. Help keep the sub engaging! Don’t downvote assholes! Do upvote interesting posts! My husband was a wedding photographer for over a decade; he told me that there absolutely was a correlation- cake-smashers were much more likely to divorce than couples who didn’t. But when my son came out his doppelgänger it was like a mercy from god to spare me from that. I also gave my hubby the best blowjob of his life, which totally turned me on. Long post, TL;DR at the end. My ex held our daughter, and talked to the baby for a bit before leaving. I said “I know that’s a tricky question” and he replied “yeah, I don’t It was very lonely and isolating. Eventually I told him my side of it. Me (M25) and my brother (M28) have never had a good relationship and it only got worse after i came out as gay, luckily our relationship has gotten a bit better I've told him that it makes me feel skeevy and gross but he claims that I shouldn't because he's not some random stranger; he's my husband. My husband was screaming my name, and I thought I I got home and my husband was asleep with my daughter in his arms. Pick up medicine OR ICECREAM. She then told me she wants me to know that she’s looking for another job somewhere else and she promises to not talk to my husband again while she’s still working there. Do NOT tell her how you or your husband feel about the situation. He is This right here. He gets me a bouquet for my birthday nearly every year because he thinks that’s what ladies like. Both my husband and his friend say they have a brother-sister relationship. I had voiced that I wanted to be engaged before the 4 year mark. We were having issues with each other, and my husband started to question whether or not he was still in love with me. My last partner who was the biggest I’ve had and so far the best, was a little over 7 inches and had decent girth. I would like get naked or something and tell him to own that kittynot the advice you want. I went to sleep next to them and woke up still feeling like shit for almost cheating on him. Because now he will talk bad about her- but if I say something he gets offended. So last night I told him. My husband. View community ranking In the Top 1% of largest communities on Reddit. But he ignored the 3-4 years of me leaving marriage self-help books around the house (and me reading passages aloud to him in order to spark conversation), me going to therapy, me starting antidepressants, me telling him "I am sick of fighting. Trying to force that will put too much pressure and shatter the whole thing. I’m calmer, the cats are so happy, and I feel safe. Yeah, OP has forgiven but she certainly hasn't forgotten. It's something I've always dealt with on my own until my husband accidentally found out through my sister. My (29F) boyfriend (31M) have been together for 7 years now. My friend told me that I should tell him but I refused and begged her not to tell him. Though it was hard, we avoided face-to-face meetings and all communication to do with work was done professionally through email. I’ve told him repeatedly over the years that I don’t like expensive bouquets (anything above $50) because they are a Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. He will hold my hand, pat my back then when I say what's wrong, he turns a complete 360. In my experience, I told him exactly as you typed it give or take 50 other reasons. I'm a stepmom, but my husband has always made me feel included so I didn't feel I needed to replace their mother. We Babes, read through my post history. Apparently, we went to the same high school, though we never met. Slowly but surely it's getting better. I told my work I was feeling very ill and they let me catch an early flight home. I was so sick I could barely move. They are clearly upsetting to Becky and the tension and hostility make me extremely uncomfortable and upset. I told him “I was a broke single mom with a kid , I wouldn’t have even looked at you if I didn’t have bunny (my son’s nickname) or even some money. It was hard, but I 100% know it’s right and my husband is already coming around to that realization too. I Me [F34] And my husband [M33] live in a 2 bedr apartment. I was weirdly turned on and I wanted to know more. My sister advised me to stay in the house that my husband and I co own until I talk to a lawyer. When we got home, I told my husband I wouldn't be joining on family vacations for a while. Eventually I had a breakdown and told her alllllll the things I could through freaking out and I definitely sounded like the crazy one because she would do things like she broke all the ears off my figurine cats my grandma left me ,she moved everything in my room an inch to the left , I had 2 fish tanks symmetrical on opposite ends of my desk Me (33F) my husband (34M) : a while back I made a dumb mistake and had an affair on my husband. I met my ex Tom when I was 17 and fell pregnant at 18 when he was 24. I Eventually I joined the Army, grew up, and met my now husband. When we were half a year from reaching our 4th year anniversary, I had revisited the topic of marriage and told him I He kicked her out. Any sort of namecalling, insults,etc will result in the comment being removed and the user being banned. I’ll be real and tell you that I acted like your husband for about a year of my marriage. However, I can tell you that if I were your husband the fact that you're choosing to keep the baby and meeting with your AP to tell him about the pregnancy means that you've chosen your AP over your husband. I told my husband everything and never hid anything. The title is right. I proposed counseling, therapy, even allowing him to have sex with other women, but he wasn't interested. One friend we will call Alex told my husband in front of me. As uncomfortable as it was especially on his side. The rest of my money I have put in a separate account for emergencies. I want to abort, he does not. He spends all day in the On Saturday morning I woke up earlier than my husband, he was very hungover so he was like sleeping a rock. Reply reply My husband (m30) told me to lose weight, so I My husband was very depressed during my pregnancy (our son is now 3). Phew. Both tom and Tammy have asked multiple questions about me in the past to the kids and they tried to convince them I was a bad person during the Hello, I (28F) know this title is odd. I also grew up in an abusive household and I have no family outside of a third cousin who lives 3k miles away is older and honestly not very supportive. My husband was never plan B. It took me 2 decades of therapy and self-reflection to come to terms with the fact that I had been raped. If I thought there was a chance my husband wasn’t the father I would tell Perhaps I am obsessed with my wife’s past cheating but I think my occasional hurt and anger are genuine feelings/emotions. I really didn't view it as innapropriate. My husband called me completely crazy, so I messaged her asking her (kind of) nicely to respect my marriage and reduce contact. After about 15 minutes after the incident I went to the bathroom. My husband told his friends the very same night. When he told my husband this was when they were out drinking and he was with their group and they all said they had been with me before and told him stories about me. I dished up for me and my kids and we sat at the table to eat. She told me that when her boyfriend cheated on her. Even then, he didn't even ask how our son was. She got alot off attention for that. My husband and I are the same. He sounded much like your husband does now. This sounds like me and my husband 6 months ago. It’s totally disrespectful in the moment as well They showed that he was the father and my husband had this shocked, kinda mortified look on his face with his eyes wide as he stared at it. Right now be there for him & as soon as you see his mood & focus shift that’s when I would bring up the news. I want to send that link to my nice guy shitty husband, but it would be yet another example of me doing all the emotional labor and trying to get him to understand that he can be a good person and other people can like him, but be an absolute terrible husband, AND he would respond by telling me that I think I'm blameless, that I think all our problems are his fault and I I told my husband I would no longer attend any events with his parents as they clearly don’t like me. It’s actually Reddit that helped me originally understand that there was something wrong with my husband. Now am I supposed to tell my husband I have yet another crush on someone, when he's been so patient and caring? Is this normal? Am I just emotionally unstable and grab onto any positive attention I get from anyone? Should I tell my husband about this? TLDR: got fired + injured, am lonely in a new city - developed crush on someone and want to I just told my husband of 3 years that I have herpes. I’m 38 and have been married for nine years, and soberly I have never considered cheating on my husband. He got more upset and depressed than angry, and I begged for him to not divorce me. Really no attempt at reconciling. So I told my mom and it was very difficult but I also felt about 1,000 pounds lighter afterward. I will meet the lawyer tomorrow and go from there. I stayed 8 awful months with him and guess what? He cheated again. OP, my dad did many of the things you described your husband doing in the bullet points at the beginning of your post (domestic violence, beating animals, destroying property, substance abuse). Finding a partner in my 30's when I'm much more mature and know what I want meant I didn't idly stuck by shitty relationships, and found a life partner in just a few months' time. To make a long story short, my husband’s son stabbed me about two weeks ago, and after getting out of the hospital, I ran. Also, stop Similar. He says he's allowed female friends, I'm a control freak, I need mental help and that they only talk at those hours because they both work long shifts. My husband is absolutely livid. He started recently attending online therapy. I know I’m not safe with my husband anymore. But, I wouldn’t tell her if she didn’t ask my opinion. I tried talking to him carefully in the beginning but I don’t think he wanted to hear it. But the advice you need. Edit2: I saw my OB on Friday and will hopefully have some test results (fingers crossed for all negative!) within the next few days. My daughter is so in love with her brother, and my mom is helping me the way I wished he would've helped. 5 years now . My husband was in the room for my 6 week PP visit, my ob/GYN kicked him out of the room for the physical exam, and while he was out she asked me if I wanted to be cleared for sex, or if I had any concerns that I didn’t want to discuss around my husband. Everything went seamlessly. Drive me to my appointments. My husband was at work. We ended up separating, but had gone to counseling and have been talking things out more. . I can't play the "if our roles were switched" card because he has issues with self-esteem (especially lately) and he says that he would appreciate it After hugging my husband, he came up to me and asked if he could hug me, which I agreed to as we have been friends since my husband and I started dating (2012) and I do care for him. We’ve been together overall for ~16 years, married for 1. I saved screenshots of all his conversations with Amy. Wow. I brought it up to him and it took a bit but he stayed by my side while I figured my life out and we came out stronger in the end. My aunt and sister-in-law are coming to my oldest son's birthday so he can see his cousins on that side and they can see me. I left my emotionally abusive )occasionally light physical abuse, he has affairs, and financially abusive) husband after 34 years together. All I could see were Matthew and his abductor above me, the distance between the two of them and myself growing quickly. They encouraged me to go home and again I refused. Or check it out in the app stores     TOPICS. I have a horrible past really and did cheat on some of my boyfriends and was very promiscuous but im nothing like that now. You just annihilated his confidence. I asked her why does she want to do this after all these years and why does she want to ruin our marriage. Do NOT tell her this is the last time you are helping her. My coward of a husband still wasn't looking at me. I went through the same. I love him a lot, and our sex life is amazing. I leaned into it with caution. together for about 5 years and no kids. I told my ex-husband many times that I needed him to take initiative to do more around the home without explicit instructions on what needed to be done and how to do it. Using this advice I decided not to tell my husband. He thought I was surprising him by coming home early (I've done that before) but he saw that something was wrong. She was angry at him for something. I mean when my cat is very sick, I search all of Reddit looking for answers similar to my situation to wrap my head Hello, sorry if this story is long, but a friend of mine recommended this application to me after i told him about my story,I want advice, ideas, or opinions on how I should proceed with my marriage. Suggest he get individual counseling to address his anger issues. If my gf asked if her boobs were big and I told her they were small and that I prefer small boobs then there isn't much reason to be upset. That was my whole plan. He told me, straight up, that he feels sorry for me for being such a In a calm manner, maybe with family present, discuss this with him and clearly, unambiguously tell him the same thing my wife did. I found out early both times. When I got home, my husband was just getting home from work. Anytime I feel insecure about something or someone, I’m able to bring it up (insecure bc my ex was unfaithful) and my husband is always very willing to reassure me and very kind. My boyfriend is about 5. OOP My girls are extremely smart and my oldest told her father I’ve never said a bad word about him to them so she wouldn’t stand for it ether nor would she tell them any information about me. My husband has since come across the reddit post in my emails and is hurt by its content. As I mentioned earlier, he told my husband things that I had already told him before, but made sure to leave out no details. Talk to him and at least mention couples therapy. It took me telling him I wanted to leave for him to finally whip into shape. The fact that her husband actively doesn't include her as their stepmom since they were young is his fault. Background: married for a decade. Recently my husband told me something I felt was a lie, I could just tell and it was something pretty dumb but he lied to avoid feeling same about it My lawyer is going to help make sure my husband won't be able to have anything to do with it. If my son wasn’t my husbands twin I was going to tell him. Don’t give up yet. Told me I was the problem, the other girl was unproblematic and an escape. *Que all the anti-abortionists to come and attack me. That one encounter resulted in my getting herpes. I just walked away and ordered takeaway. However, I’d like to provide context to my current situation, because I don’t know what to do. I had told 2 of my long-term boyfriends during that time frame that I had herpes. My husband (32) went on a trip with his dad for 6 days and left me F(31) with our two kids; I feel upset and left out (Need Advice) I told my husband and he embraced me before I could even finish my sentence. Some weeks ago I made a post asking you guys if I should tell the man I had been dating for a few months about all my past relationships. Ok so we have had infidelity on his side about 8 years ago, super big breach of Everything and was most horrible time of my life. This weekend my husband and I went to a festival with 2 of his guy friends. Reasons? No reason in particular. After reading all the comments I realized that keeping secrets to avoid being hurt was not the way I didn’t mean to hurt you. He can't yell at you if you are not there. Not because she’s more important but because I need someone to help me process things. And I told my husband that I love him (husband) but not in love with him. And I had to tell him several times a week for the last 6 months, because (again) in my experience guys that treat their wives like this will never ever get it. I told my husband a few days ago that my individual therapist and our couples therapist both think that he's being abusive (or that I'm being abused). Particularly the part about needing childlike direction. I also take care of myself and my dogs. I told him that I wouldn’t scratch his back everyday so he literally got me a backscratcher so it wouldn’t chip my nail polish off. When i got there my mother told me that husband had told her everything, that she was disappointed in me and that husband had left papers for me in the living room. Six years later my friend told me that she will tell my husband about it if I don't tell him. He wanted to be waiting in the When you have a crush when you're married, you don't tell the crush, and you ESPECIALLY don't tell your husband after you told your crush. It was all me and I was always the victim. He pinged my phone to a hotel, went to the hotel, but I wasn’t there, just accidentally left my phone in my car that was still there in the hotel parking lot. They all had been drinking and I was the DD. Yesterday I told my husband I hated him we have been going through so much same day I started packing my stuff to leave but didn’t he has a huge communication problem when there is a problem in our relationship I’m usually the one trying to talk it out and fix it but I feel like I’m just talking to a fucking wall but the I beat myself up The title of your post is wrong. ” She told me my husband is really hot and she couldn’t help herself. He told me in that conversation that he was gay, and that he was back in jail. Telling him now may bring some Joy, but I’d want my husband to fully be focused on the news. I read a thread a day ago in reddit, about a woman who cheated in the past (previous relationship), but chose to keep the secret knowing his current fiance hate cheating very much, and finally the fiance knows about it in stupid way, and the relationship ends. Right then and there. Do NOT question her I said ''I don't love him like I used to'', with ''like I used to'' being the key words. My coworkers wanted to call an ambulance but I told them I was okay. I lost it and told him everything. We sat down, and I knew something was wrong. My husband has always been the type of guy to give a person only one chance. Am I insensitive to think this is a little bit dramatic? Back story. My MIL was still going on about what was wrong with me and why 2. He never showed any remorse. Do what you are doing. If my husband said “I don’t want to lose you but understand if you need to leave” I’d ask what he’s doing to not lose me. I wish someone had told me that one of the hardest challenges in marriage might be watching your partner slowly fall out of love with you. And I can actually confirm this because my first marriage was an abusive shitshow, but my second marriage is very loving and respectful and I’m very lucky. Also this is a throwaway account. I remember using the bathroom and staring in the mirror, I looked so fat. There was no floor, no ceiling — I seemed to be diving into sheer, bottomless darkness. Basically, I'm socially awkward and face some difficulties with interaction. Me and my husband met in college and have been married for 6 years now. I am new to this sub-reddit, but I hope that I will be welcomed even though my husband hasn’t cheated or been abusive. I get my child down to sleep and it’s between 8:30-9pm that I am resuming cooking. Even in his friendships, if the trust had been broken he wouldn't give the other person another chance. " When he told me I never warned him it was "that bad". I (28F) am married to my husband (29M) for about 2. Why, my husband TOLD him, the day he confessed to me. 24K votes, 2. If I have to wait longer, I will, but at the moment, that's my plan. My MIL did try to harass me over the phone about me divorcing my ex, but by then, I had already blocked her We have tried to have discussions with my Dad about this but it has gone nowhere, so now we only stop him if he has interrupted someone (which he does to me far more than my brothers, probably because I'm the second most talkative haha). Eventually, it got to where he began threatening to harm me, and actually harming me. After putting the baby to sleep yesterday, we had a conversation. Knowing that the lust and butterflies go away, but what develops is a deep love and companionship. I’ve been with my husband since high school and his mother has always been a problem. He could tell something was up but I just told him I had too much to drink and was sleeping UPDATE: I am divorcing my husband, I told my kids and I spoke with Amy's mom. Its his choice and he doesn't have to do anything. If this woman was my friend in real life and told me what happened and asked my opinion I would tell her to keep the baby because I don’t believe it is that babies fault for how it was conceived. " and started laughing at the way he looked. Our kid was 6 months old. He didn’t believe me at first and was rude about it and told me to go f myself. Tell him you will no tolerate yelling and walk away. I love and Same, 5 years I did NOT appreciate being told to shut up. My doctors told my husband (30M) and I (31F) that our baby has many birth defects. Initially when we were friends I told him briefly that I was abused by someone in my family but couldn't bring myself to tell him it was my father. I put it in my account and once it cleared I began slowly paying off my husband's and my debt. For everyoneelse My parents told hem I was a virgin. After I made my original post, my husband and I rushed to get a 2nd opinion. She said “You got that?” I said “YES”. I recently realized A little update: I told my husband about my feelings towards my boyfriend. Share Sort by: Best edit2: No, I haven’t told my husband about J nor am I gonna. Internet Culture (Viral) Amazing dr I have $20k in credit card debt and don’t know how to tell my financially savvy husband Archived post. I didn’t confess straight into the conversation. If I told my girlfriend "there are girls that are way hotter than you out there" do you think that would in the least bit fucking wise? Poor analogy. My husband has told me repeatedly that if I’m unhappy with him, that I need to go to my own therapy. If he wants a marriage and his wife there needs to be major apologies and some serious pulling his head out of his ass. Reply reply I am not The OOP, OOP is u/Longjumping-Yak7968. Fast forward 1 year, he is proposing and i say yes, feeling like my luck was changing. We'd like to take this time to remind users that: We do not allow any type of am I the asshole? or situations/content involving minors. She told me she wasn't giving anything to anyone else and would prefer for me not to tell anyone so I didn't. So I made my own post and said I'll get a test when she gets test for her son! That just made everything worse! She rang my husband up telling him to take it down. I do everything for him including bath or shower him. I'm afraid if i do he will go back to doing nothing excusing that as we don't need money and i could hire someone for the house work. I never intended to substitute him. Who has the audacity? How I didn’t slap her I still do not know. She took to SM and told everyone that I cheated on my husband and that my husband needs to get a DNA test to prove he was the dad. If you haven’t read those, i encourage you to do so. I couldn't help but say, " I told you so. There wasn’t some big confrontation. This was a planned baby and I’m absolutely devastated. If by any chance J and I end up together, then everyone will know including my husband but we are not will telling my husband or anybody about how J and I met. I didn't tell my husband at first. I completely understand that I have hurt and betrayed his trust. My husband snapped out of his shock, and got mad at me for laughing at him. My ex best friend did the same but opposite- told me she'd heard my husband had slept with my bridesmaid, then moved in with him when I kicked him to the curb. I would never ask my husband to stop being lazy. He told him everything, he was trying to break it off with her, and she wouldn't have it. We have one son who is now 4 years old. If he continues, then therapy is the only other option. My sister asked me if I was alright after he was gone, and I told her I was okay. Go do to thyself what you would do unto others!” I thought about it for a second and said “Mom!!!”. She never sends me a message, unless my husband tells her that he's not home and she's on her way (happened only once in 4 years) she's engaged and has a baby on the way. Please make sure you read our rules here. If he asks details, give him details no matter how painful. I listened to him. But, I told my best friend I was pregnant before I told my husband. If he resists and he Get the Reddit app Scan this QR code to download the app now. Bless her, she was really trying to look out for me! Now my detective skills have found him out again, same woman, he proposed to her and sponsored her to come to the US, while telling me he loved me, now he told her goodbye because I filed divorce and told him to never ever speak to me again, he wants me to forget everything and start over again so we can not hurt EACH OTHER not so he can not My boyfriend is great in bed, but I have had better partners. It wouldn't even be worth asking on reddit if that were true. On the drive to my new place, I blocked him on everything except for phone. I'd pack my stuff and my kids and go stay with my mother. Reddit's most popular camera brand-specific subreddit! We are an unofficial community of users of the Sony Alpha brand and related gear: Sony E Mount, Sony Anyways, I told my husband that I would do anything to regain his trust and expressed my sorrow and regret for having hurt him so much. For the past few months I’ve been stewing and ruminating about how my feelings have changed for my husband. There, I said it. He said "ok" and that's the only interaction we've had since. As the I Told My Husband My Savings H-t $500k Then I Woke Up To Find My Passbook Missing - Reddit Stories #redditstories #shareyourstory #redditcommunity #realpeoplerealstories #reddittales He was planning to set me up on a fake date with my husband "H", at a local chain restaurant, where I would tell my husband about our multi-year affair, including a timeline of events, everything. My mom initiated a divorce from him when I was five; it was finalized when I was eight (yay, divorce before no-fault divorce - except not really a yay I told Rob my husband is not the person you wanna go to for relationship advice. My husband cheated so I told everyone He has nothing right now and definitely doesn't care. I was only able to get the last three months from iCloud. Originally posted by u/trueoffmychest_ta in r/TrueOffMyChest on Aug 4, '22, updated Mar 16, '23. I absolutely love it here. I told him what I want is a little respect and doesn’t he think I deserve that. Listen to The kids were young enough that her husband should have said they should get a Mother's Day card for their stepmother. You are assuming bigger=better. I stared at my stomach for so long before I got a call from my husband. I'm REALLY REALLY struggling with this though. My husband was gutted - I was surprised because I thought he'd be angry at me. OOP is clearly lying to her ex-husband My husband’s a good person, just not someone I want to be in a relationship with (despite all these people here who think they know my marriage better than I do and are betting I’ll go back to him, as if I haven’t thought this through). He automatically said no, which I expected. In the morning, I told my husband that my mom would pick up our daughter from summer camp and offered to watch her for a week. Man she got you so whipped you can't do anything without her promission and we used to be so close and she got in the way. He kept on raving about how we could give her as much love in her life as we can. The conversations were mostly flirty and dirty talk; it was hard to stomach, completely But, it is not something I like to do just because my arm gets tired and it sometimes chips my nail polish off. Immediately after it happened I confessed to my partner. He was disappointed because I didn't trust him enough to CHOOSING to love each other every day. I said I told you so and how he will not talk to me. I was concerned for him. The word divorce doesn’t enter our vocabulary, ever! My husband 29M is the the kind of guy who'll notice if there is anything wrong immediately and 9/10 when I, 31F tell him what's wrong or I communicate my feelings, it ends up in a fight and me regretting why I opened up. My recommendation- please tell him everything and get it all out there. I would never give my opinion on something like that if it wasn’t asked for. I know about the affair, i know about the lies. My bff told me to just have him sign the birth certificate and then if I don't tell him and he finds out later he will be less likely to leave because he would have to raise the child with me regardless. He said that he should have friends just like I did. you don't ever tell an insecure guy that he has a small dick. My husband is my best friend, he always has my back and we are a team. In a perfect world I wouldn’t even second guess about telling my husband (30M) about my miscarriage. Do NOT refer to your previous efforts and how upset you were that she went back to him, in spite of everything you did for her. This is Reddit's very own solution-hub. It's my body and my choice. 8K votes, 471 comments. He asked about a lot of details of what happened and I told him about it. BTW, my mother and father never raised their voices to each other. me (42F) and my husband (44M) have been married for 18 years, we have two children ages 9 and 13, I will get right to the point, I cheated on my husband with a coworker named nick (fake . My husband just got frustrated with me not being a great mood and he asked me “what do you want from me? What can I do for you to make you stop being such a miserable bitch?”. He has never met him or seen him or asked about him. Me (33f), my current husband ‘John’ (35m), ex husband ‘Tom’ (39m), my son ‘Luke’ (15m) and John’s daughter ‘Julia’ (16f). true. When I was 17 years old, I was a victim of date rape. He doesn't work at all and he honestly doesn't have to. My husband said “it helped get someone like you” and kissed me on the cheek”. Welcome to r/relationship_advice. My husband and I are high school sweethearts, so I wasn’t hanging out With my boyfriend this is my first relationship in 4 years since my husband passed away so far this relationship has been amazing and he is younger than me at 23 but pretty much he’s started asking a lot of questions about my past I did mention about myself being a widow but he’s like very curious about almost everything like upbringing Yeah. Do NOT tell her what you would have done, if you were in her position. Won't make it a long story as I've more or less told it here before, but deciding to separate and then divorce was the best thing I ever did. Before you ask: Our finances are separate and he doesn't have If you have to yell to make a point, that point is no longer valid. Regardless of what my husband has done I love my child. I had somewhat of a Wild Phase during College, I was different back then and so was everything My husband and I have been together for 4 years, and we got married 6 months ago. I didn’t give one shit about my husband’s feelings, wants, needs, anything. You can check my post history in justnomil for context, but basically she hates me, she’s a covert narcissist, and I have tried everything to get along with her but she has made it impossible. He tried to comfort me and tell me it wasn’t true but he understood and said I wouldn’t have to see his parents anymore if I didn’t want to. After he found out he was heartbroke, crying emotional, as I expected. " His reaction wasn't logistical at all. I couldn't help it, I just started crying and took a long shower to try and forget about it. He didn’t find me. I begged for dates for months finally I forced him out to a bar with me, he wouldn’t get off his phone, I kept trying to make conversation with no use, the last thing I tried was making a joke about hockey on the tv and he says “would you just shut up” when I brought it up later he said I was being sensitive, it’s been a couple I found him easily and I contacted him. I’ve been too much of a pushover to his son, and my husband refuses to protect me. We have decided that long ago when we were dreaming about our future together that we wouldn’t tell our exes how we met. OP, you have to tell your husband what happened, tell him that you are very concerned that you entertained and engaged in behaviour that could have ruined your family if you did not shut it down in time and that you are determined to find out why you allowed it to go that far, why you did not shut the guy down hard when you need it to. too. Do your part, tell him your side, and go. I haven't told my husband and idk if i will. She finally told him “Pete. After all this time he’s bowing saying he knows I’m lying since he went to a priest friend for counsel soon after finding out and when my husband told him he was certain I had cheated, the priest apparently told him that i I told my husband about the abuse 2 years into our marriage. It should read, “I told my husband to stop loving me and now it’s going downhill” If that doesn’t explain it quickly then you’re too stupid to be married. I hesitated to contact him again to be honest but after a few days I realized that I would too not believe a stranger just popping in my dms accusing my SO of cheating so I recorded my husband’s phone with my phone. My brother connected me to a very tough junkyard dog type lawyer. Dick move. And it’s true. And he blamed me again. He told me whatever he needs to do he’ll do. "Wife. I feel like I am the asshole because I had told my husband I told you so for his female best friend not being a good person. But you guys will be proud of me, because I followed some I told my husband that I wanted to meet her but he wouldn't let me. I am an American Indian born in the USA, My parents are Indian, They were quite lenient about dating and romance. She didn't reply. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: My husband asked for a separation and promised to co-parent but has had little to no contact with his kids. I promised myself that I would tell my husband, but every time I tried, I was too weak-minded. That doesn't mean that the marriage is necessarily doomed, but it doe mean that they are basically building a whole new relationship after the affair and it will never be like it was before. Once I learned that, I scheduled the termination for as soon as physically possible. Last night I asked my husband if I had gained weight because I felt like I had. Please view our voting guide here, and remember to use only one judgement in your comment. I’m immediately met with negativity. Before the podcast started reading reddit stories, the hosts would choose a topic and research it using Wikipedia. My late husband and I were married for 18 years and 8 years into it I started having doubts and thoughts of being single. He would get my fancy cookbooks, cooking appliances, and nice aprons so I can cook better meals. My husband told me that I gained weight in the kindest way . I just told him, forget it I’ll do it. tfd ezjch ggc otcf pyu zflomv uzdot iqn nskhe lawaap